You Were NOT Born This Way

Same-sex attraction is not about sex; it's about intimacy. 

There are many individuals who believe that they were BORN with same-sex attractions. This is not true. There has been no research that has been found or proven to show that there is a "gay part" in the human brain. Sure, there may be traits that individuals have that may lead someone to believing that a certain individual is different, but this does not mean that someone is a homosexual.

Too often, a male is categorized as being "gay" because he likes to be around girls and feels more comfortable around them. Or, a male may grow up being more creative and artsy than growing up loving to play sports and being aggressive. Having these traits may make the boy different in the eyes of his peers, but it does not mean that he is automatically interested in males.

       This week in class, I learned that many individuals believe that they are homosexual due to experiences they had as a child. For instance, males who later determine themselves as "gay" may have had an overly-involved mother. If this was the case, a boy may feel uncomfortable around girls because of how his relationship was with his mom.
       Another example is if a boy didn't have a father role in the home while he was growing up. Having a father role in the house is very important in the life and development of a young boy. If there was no father figure in the house, males will often look for acceptance, support, and friendship from their male peers.
       This may freak some boys out when another boy tries to develop a close friendship with them. But, the boy is just trying to have a male figure in his life. It is sad that when someone acts differently, many of his or her peers will categorize him or her as a homosexual. Once that stereotype is said enough to the individual who is a little different, he may start thinking that he is gay or she may believe that she is a lesbian.

         After that is said enough to individuals, it is very possible that they will start acting on those feelings that have been "placed in their heads". Camilla Paglia once said,  

"There is an element of choice in all behavior, sexual or otherwise". 

So, being someone that has same-sex attractions is a choice. It is also a choice to ACT on those feelings. It is encouraging to know that there have been individuals who have had a complete recovery from having homosexual attractions. No longer being attracted to the same gender is entirely possible!! This gives me great hope for those who are struggling with those same-sex feelings. 

My professor said that he was looking at a blog once and there was a comment that said,

"To any of those gay couples, there are two women who will never be able to have a family." 

So now I ask you: Will you be someone who will withhold another from the opportunity of having a family? I truly hope not. I believe you can have complete recovery if you can gain enough courage to take the first step and stop it.